Skills for Thriving in Modern Life

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October 31, 2017

Life is a journey. Just like childhood did not last forever, life has a series of segments, and whatever you are experiencing in this moment—this, too, shall pass.

While you might not believe it now, sometime in the coming days or years, you will laugh so hard that your sides hurt, you will love so strongly that it takes your breath away, and you...

October 29, 2017

Often, when our relationships end, we feel so awful and emotional that extricating ourselves from the situation with a modicum of dignity intact is all we can do.

However, we can turn even the worst relationships into valuable lessons if we mine them.

What Does It Mean to “Mine a Relationship?”

Mining a relationship is the process of considering wha...

October 28, 2017

Since your beliefs drive your behavior and influence how you feel, it seems obvious that you should make sure the beliefs that are shaping your life are empowering, not limiting.  

That’s obvious, but is it simple?

I don’t think so. Changing beliefs can be difficult, for no other reason than that we oftentimes do not even know that we have limiting...

October 27, 2017

Have you ever watched someone interpret a situation in a manner that seemed way off base?

It happens all of the time. Two different people experience the exact same thing, and they walk away with two entirely different perspectives.

This is because our beliefs are self-fulfilling prophecies. They color the way we look at the world such that we only...

October 25, 2017

We have all been there. A well-meaning friend tries to cheer us up with these two dreaded words: “At least.”

At least you didn’t total the car.

At least you have some savings in the bank while you look for a new job.

At least you didn’t break both arms.

This attempt to get you to look on the bright side makes you feel worse. Now you get to add guilt...

October 24, 2017

From the time we are children, “positive thinking” is pounded into us. We are bombarded with sentiments like: “Look on the bright side. Don’t be sad. Stay positive. When life hands you lemons, make lemonade.”

The sentiment behind these pep-talks is admirable: A lot can be said about focusing on positive, empowering thoughts. 

But the truth is that...

October 23, 2017

From an early age we are taught that emotions are inappropriate, embarrassing, something to be hidden.

  • “Boys don’t cry.”

  • “Anger isn’t ladylike.”

  • “Don’t be sad.”

To show great emotion is a kind of failure—a character flaw, even, as if your big emotions somehow make you not as strong as you should be. To be called “emotional” is an i...

October 21, 2017

From an early age, most of us were told that we were perfect, just the way we were. We were told that we were special. We were told to love ourselves.

Our parents believed that if they repeated these mantras enough, we would believe them.

It was a nice idea, filled with the best of intentions.

Yet, it wasn’t true.

If you are like most people, hearing...

October 19, 2017

At some point or another, life will bring each of us to our knees. Diagnoses, breakups, breakdowns: These are all part of the normal human experience.

Our inclination, when we face these crises, is to think: If only …

If only my spouse weren’t leaving me.

If only I did not have this disease.

If only a pile of money would fall from the sky.

We think th...

October 17, 2017

By the time they graduate from high school, students will have received approximately 13,000 hours of training and education, supposedly to prepare them for success in the adult world. They are taught the formula for salt, how to play Hot Cross Buns on a recorder, all of the state capitals, and the various plant phyla.

Yet, not a single minute of...

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