The stories you tell about yourself determine your future. They also influence how other people feel about you. You get to choose how to talk about yourself, particularly your setbacks, disappointments and failures. Use those conversations as opportunities to solidify what you learned and clarify what you want for yourself going forward.
When people hear the word “surrender,” they often think of giving up. They think surrendering means they have to walk away from whatever it is they want. This definition of “surrender” feels lousy. Why would you—and why should you—give up on your desires?
I don’t think you should.
However, I do believe there are times when you have done everything...