That Builds Resilience
About The MacDermott Method
If you're reading this, it is time...
Time to stop repeating the same behaviors that have you stuck in a relationship marred by escalating conflict.
Are you hoping for something to magically change? You know that doesn’t happen. You know that is the definition of insanity.
I get it. You are at an impasse. You know this situation is not sustainable but you are locked in a dance with an irrational person who does not understand how you feel and doesn’t seem to want to try.
It’s frustrating. Infuriating, actually. And sad. And if you’re really honest with yourself, probably scary, too.
There’s so much at stake...
You’re exhausted from being so tense all the time. The stress is taking a toll on your body. All of your other relationships are suffering as well—in your personal and professional life. In fact, you feel utterly alone in this. No one really understands what you’re going through.
It is time. Time to move forward. Time to lean in and use this as a springboard for something better.
Whether your conflict is in a professional or personal relationship,
you’ve come to the right place.
I know it might seem like there’s no solution that does not involve you losing in some way, but trust me. We can do this.
I’ve helped partners who had devolved into mortal enemies find a way to get both sets of needs met and emerge from the conflict... feeling battle-worn but still optimistic about the future.
How is this possible?
Because conflict is always about unmet needs.
And though it can sometimes feel like the other person has to cooperate for you to get your needs met, that is rarely the case (unless you are being held against your will). A deeper look at your needs, values, desires and beliefs will always reveal a way for YOU to get your needs met. If you are willing to do the work and get honest with yourself about what you want and why you want it, the path will become clear.
There is never a situation in which another person can hold your ability to choose happiness hostage. One need only read Viktor Frankl’s seminal book Man’s Search for Meaning for proof of this. In the book, Frankl describes how he and other prisoners in a Nazi concentration camp—who were getting virtually none of their needs met—ultimately had a choice about whether or not the ruthless guards could take away their dignity and their hope. This staggering demonstration of resilience reveals the power of a person’s mindset.
Mindset is a critical component of conflict, as well.
Resilience is the key...
... to turning intolerable situations into opportunities for personal growth.
My unique model of conflict resolution allows you not only to resolve your issue but to gain self-awareness and a set of skills that will serve you for the rest of your life in the process.
Imagine how it will feel...
... not just being free of this negativity, but more importantly, to have created a new chapter in your life that aligns with your values...
... one in which you get your needs met, feel taken care of, are surrounded by healthy, supportive relationships, and feel engaged, inspired, and empowered to create whatever you desire for yourself!
This is the power of resilient conflict resolution.
Want to learn more?
I love to talk about it. Give me a call.
How Did I Come to Love Resilience Training and Conflict Resolution?
After nearly two decades of studying and teaching resilience, I have seen time and again that there are blessings in the tough times, if we are willing to look for them. I have seen how adversity, conflict, and dark nights of the soul can bring out the worst in us, but also how they can ignite the very best. Ideally, they can serve as catalysts of human transformation, which is a wonder to behold. Helping people achieve this has become my passion.
We all feel most connected when we are vulnerable and authentic, and this makes my work feel particularly meaningful. I am honored that people trust me to be in the trenches with them as they do the difficult work of reconnecting to hope and to each other. It feels good to help people when the stakes are high. When they are digging deep and making decisions with serious consequences.
Nothing gives me greater satisfaction than bearing witness to aha moments that offer a new perspective and a new path forward. I am constantly amazed by the resilience and creativity of the human spirit and also by our capacity for forgiveness and love.
Most people avoid conflict,
but I can help you turn it into an opportunity
for something better.